Updating

I have several things I want to update on. Thought it would be good to do it all at once.

DA update

Bug cried when reading his email last week. It broke my heart. After alot of heartache and thought she decided not to email him back.

Insurance and weight loss surgery update

I can't remember if I mentioned hubby started a new job back in December. (That's an entry by itself) Which meant our insurance changed.

After multiple phone calls between the dr.'s office and insurance company the ball is finally starting to role again. I had to get on the scales this morning to give the dr. office a current weight. O.M.G!!!!! I waited until my hubby left the house to call them back with the weight.

I'm hoping beyond hope to get a surgery date by March of this year.

Hubby's Job Status

He's still home. Something about problems with his security clearance because of it being renewed. Today has been one month that he's been home.

Okay, he's back and talking none stop...I'll end here.

DA strkes back @ Bug

Son of a BITCH!

Bug took it upon herself to write her father (DA) an email. In that email she told him things that had been bugging her for a long time, as well as asking HIM to come visit her instead of her having to travel there. She told him that it bothered her that he DID NOT ask about her Christmas or what she got, but instead went into detail about what A (her little sister thru DA) got and things A did. Bug took upon herself to tell him what she got. Then she called my cell phone while I was at the ER and said "It would be nice if he acknowledged me."

There was more to the email she sent. She managed to cram alot into one paragraph and kept it rather short.

She had me read the email before she sent it. I told her I thought she did a good job, but she needed to think long and hard before sending it. I warned her that it was going to make him mad and to expect him to send something back.

DA's response was lashing back out at her. He refuses to take any blame for any thing. Such as the conversation about A, christmas presents, etc. He says he never did that and always asks her about school, life, how she is, etc. Then he brings me into the conversation. Not once, but at least twice to blame me for something. He blames me for him not coming to visit her as well as her not going to visit him. He says "your mother doesn't pay for her share of travel like she's supposed to." LIAR!!! I pay for exactly what I agreed to pay for or make arrangements for half her travel. Irreguardless he only pays for HALF of her travel during the summer visits.

He also claimed the only reason they haven't moved closer to her is because of me stating "If we moved closer to you, your mother would just move again." Yeah, like he holds that sort of power over me. Nevermind, I have a husband who works in this area, two other children to consider, AND a house that has a mortgage in an economy that sucks for resale. But in the following sentences he claims he's been at the same company for the past 9 years and can't just leave. Then says T (Bug's stepmother = DA's wife) only has a short time before she graduates college and then they plan on moving here to be closer to Bug.

Frigging Dumb Ass. So, to sum it up. He plans on quiting a job he's been at for 9 years to move to a state with no family or friends in order to be closer to his daughter that's going into high school. Which will include uprooting his 2nd daughter from the only home she's ever known. And also includes making his wife move away from her family in hopes of getting a job here. LOL It wouldn't be long after they got here Bug would be leaving for college. So much for them moving to be closer to her.

It just really pisses me off that he blames Bug for his short comings. It ticks me off that he blames me for everything that's ever gone wrong in his relationship with her. Yeah, he doesn't need any help, he's doing a fine job all by himself.

2009

Happy New Year...2009!

I hope all of you had a great Christmas and a Happy New Year! Ours was good. The holidays in general were stressful to put it mildly. I'm glad it's over.

I never did make out or send Christmas cards. 2nd year in a row I've slacked on that. Kinda like I was waiting for pictures to be done that we just never got around to doing. Next thing I know it's a new year.

My parents came to visit for Christmas. They were here about a week. This was a very stressful visit and spilled over to the next week.

The day after my parents left my stepdaughter came to visit. SD left this morning. Her visit was pretty uneventful...as in no problems from her. The older she gets the more I like her. Wish I could have learned that a long time ago. Looking back it seems like I was the source of any problems we had with her. Maybe...maybe not.

Hubby decided to change jobs. In my opinion it couldn't have come at a worse time....but I didn't feel like I had the right to ask him to wait, so I stayed quiet and let him do what he thought was best. I've known for a very long time how unhappy he was at his job. Which was my main reason for staying quiet. If changing jobs would make him happier then I was all for it. BUT, I wish the change had not happened right smack in the middle of the biggest holiday of the year.

As a result of his changing jobs his paycheck for the new job has not come thru. Luckily he had just enough from his half a paycheck from his old job to cover the mortgage that is automatically deducted from our account.

As a plus he's had the holidays off and has been "working" from home. Hopefully he'll be able to return to work soon.

I'm starting to think all the work and time I put into working towards getting the lapband seems like a waste because of our insurance changing. It's the one thing I've asked for and now it looks like it's not going to happen. Hubby seems to think the new insurance will accept all the loopholes the old insurance had me jump thru. I don't see it happening.

If nothing else happens for the year of 2009, I will fix our budget.

At the moment I'm mad at the dogs. They've chewed up at least 2 new toys Bean got for Christmas. No, we're not getting rid of them...I'm just mad at them.

As happy as I was to see 2008 come to an end, I don't see how 2009 can possibly be any better.